Suspension (part II)

[Ashen Decay]

Ok, now that's all done with I can explain exactly what happened.

I resigned today and it was accepted, so yeah, I took the easy way out.

Basically I worked for a small company and as such we have a few friends of the company who we let have free reign of the building as it were, anyway, while my director was off back in October before I went on holiday, it appears that one such friend, a guy I have known for 7 years, worked with at 2 seperate places of employment and once called my best friend decided to steal a load of our stock (games and such) and sell it at a local second hand shop over the road...righ under my nose.
As such I was suspended pending disciplinary (assumingly for neglect) over the situation.

The point is, never in a million years would I expect one of my close friends to screw me over so badly, his greed then costing me my job.

I'm not the only one that gave him free reign so I don't really view it as neglect, he just fucked me over on my watch as it were.

So since I have been in the country I have been stabbed in the back and lost my job.

I have decided to take until the new year as an extra rest and throw myself back into it all after that.

Let us hope my next week goes better...

And please, take my advice, don't trust ANYONE

[Ed]

Wow, what a wanker   With friends like that you sure as shit don't need any enemies

Is he stealing to feed a habit?  Not that it makes any difference.

[Ashen Decay]

No shit, bah, such is my luck I guess

I don't know if he is stealing to feed a habit or not, he told me as well a mutual friend s a cokehead so I told the guy yesterday and he was PISSED that our "friend" said this about him, hopefully he'll rearrange his face but he also said that our "friend" was the cokehead.

I think he will now avoid me like the plague though

[Ed]

If you decide to bludgeon him to death with one of his own arms, itself ripped off in a fit of rage, please be sure to take pictures - we need a tad more content here   

Betrayal of trust by such a long time friend must gall you more than the suspension, I know it would with me.  What a shit run of luck too - get back off holiday and find yourself 'sacked'   Fucking unreal, especially for that reason.  I think it's going to take a while for it to even sink in.  Things generally have a way of turning out for the best though, at least in my experience - I have patchy bad luck (same as everybody) but the overall direction of things seems to be up

[Ashen Decay]

Cheers, yeah the betrayal pissed me off more than losing my job, though that is an annoyance...

It will take a while for it all to sink in, but hey, when it does I'll be ready to stab the bastard

And I am trying to look at it from a positive aspect, for instance, my director said that he'd write me a GLOWING reference which will state that they wanted to keep me but had to lay me off because they couldn't afford to keep me and that I held everything together while I was there, also I still get my bonus this year and all that.

And another more possitive point is that I have wanted to get out of retail and IT actually for a little while (well thinking about it anyway) so with any luck I might find a challenge elsewheere and if all goes well it may even pay a lot more than my last job, which can only be a good thing.

So yeah, here's to the new year

[Ed]

Another thing - be sure to cut off his ears and make a necklace out of them   You could wear it to all your job interviews to show you're decisive and a no-nonsense kinda guy.  Worn with a bandana and ammo belts crossed over your chest, you will make an unrivalled first impression on future employers, I guarantee it

If nothing else, people thinking of befriending you in your new work environment will be more considerate of your feelings   Kewl....

Having a glowing reference and still getting your bonus is some consolation - the money will give you a little breathing room, so that you don't have to take the first offer that comes along, which is good.  Hopefully the reference will make the difference between you and somebody else getting a job.  Employers like to see good references, they find it reassuring.

So what are you going to try getting into next?  I can understand you getting out of retail, whatever - I can't deal with members of the public on a day to day basis; too many of them are astonishingly thick.  Sometimes when I'm trying to explain something and they're just not getting it (after I've explained it every way I can think of) I sometimes (often) feel like rapping my knuckles on their forehead and yelling, "Hello!!!  Speaky Engrish, fucko?!?!" which is pretty offensive, I think, judging by past reactions....

[Neuromancer]

I can understand you getting out of retail, whatever - I can't deal with members of the public on a day to day basis; too many of them are astonishingly thick.  Sometimes when I'm trying to explain something and they're just not getting it (after I've explained it every way I can think of) I sometimes (often) feel like rapping my knuckles on their forehead and yelling, "Hello!!!  Speaky Engrish, fucko?!?!" which is pretty offensive, I think, judging by past reactions....

OMFG!!!  I worked retail in the computer area of Staples (an office supply store)  I was really good at it but so many times spent so much time talkingto people like that.

The thing that really pissed me off and got me in trouble though was Mac users, jeez.  Look I understand they are supposedly better at whatever then PC's.  But you dont get something that few people know how to use and then ask everyone how to use it!! JEez

This one cow was completely unreasonable.  Asking me "well aren't you the computer guy?"  when I said I could not help her with her Mac Issues.

I calmly looked at her and said.  "I spent years learning as much as I could about computers if you think I am gonna waste my time on one percent of the poppulation you must be insane."

Fortunatelymy boss had a sense of humour and even the other customer I was with had a chuckle. 

Now normally I received much praise about my performance with customers.  With takingthe time to explain all their options..(though not too many options for the technophobes) and making sure they bought whatthey wanted.  Not just merely makingthe sale.  Also had a very high percentage of extended warranties.  (which I still think are a good idea, maybe thats why?)

Good luck in your job hunting!!!

[Ashen Decay]

Yeah, people, for the most part, are idiots, the amount of idiots I have dealt with over the years is shocking, it really is.

I'm usually not so nice to them though, but then I generlly don't have to be.
I told one guy before that I'd only offer him a refund if he appolgised for being a prick to me

Ummm about what I want to do next, I really don't know but I wanna move onto something different, I'd love to train as a psychologist but that sorta thing would be hard for me to get into. I tend to get on well with most people though.
Realistically, if I can help it I don't want to settle for less than about £20,000 a year.
But if all else fails, an ex boss of mine is the manager of the local Maplins, so he's already offered me a job there, though it's much less than I wanna take, and in retail again, but it does have some prospects.
Any ideas of a good career path to follow?

When I was 17 I was waiting to apply for the police force, hehe

[Ed]

Yeah, people, for the most part, are idiots, the amount of idiots I have dealt with over the years is shocking, it really is.

I'm usually not so nice to them though, but then I generlly don't have to be.
I told one guy before that I'd only offer him a refund if he appolgised for being a prick to me

Love it.  A man after my own heart

Have you thought about going to your local careers service?  A few years ago, when I was considering a change in direction, I went along to mine, and they did give me a few ideas.  I paid about £150 for some psychometric testing too, but TBH that was a waste of time really - the results were so broad that it was pointless.  It said I was suited to everything from being a brain surgeon to a road sweeper

It would probably be a good idea for you to branch off into a field related to what you're already doing.  That way you'll at least know something about it, and you'll have a head start in any training that might be involved.

Psychology is a fascinating subject, but personally I couldn't handle listening to a load of other people's problems all day every day.  I get the impression that most people you would have to deal with would be both thick and neurotic   Fuck that.  But then I'm not exactly a 'people person'  

Maybe you could have a stab at becoming a counsellor?  I get the impression that the training for it is relatively easy and quick - I used to know a painter & decorator that went into it.  I'd have said that it could be pretty depressing from time to time though.  You've only got to look at the suicide rate amongst psychiatrists to see that delving into the human brain can get messy.

[Ashen Decay]

Ok, well after soe thought I am half considering going back to the states again, anywhere from 2 weeks to 90 days.
That side of me thinks it'll be less c**ts to deal with and a refreshing break after all the s**t that went down when I got back from the states.

But then the other half of me thinks that is a bad idea with no income and not an unlimited supply of cash...so maybe it's just the insanity kicking in.
That side says I should find a job and throw myself back into that before taking a holiday to the states, being more conservative.

Bah...

[Ed]

It would be good if you could find gainful employment over there, but, as you realise, a trip back over there would just sap your funds and you'd still have the same shit to contend with when you get back...with the added problem of being broke

You picked the wrong time of year to go off the rails if you left it to the summer, chances are you could find seasonal work at a summer camp or other kind of holiday resort - or you could get work fruit picking, something like that.  It doesn't pay well, but it makes staying away cheaper, plus you get to experience a different way of life/culture/whatever.  Could be a good laugh.  Perhaps you could plan to do something like that later in the year - at least it would give you something to look forward to and take your mind off your problems

[Ashen Decay]

Yeah, I dunno, going away again is feasible but it will drain resources, and at the end of the day it's just running away from the problem, though I did think about returning there early in the new year anyway, so it's not just an off the top of the head thing.

I tried looking on the job center website today for stuff and it's just so fucking stressful, anything half worthwhile has so many criteria to meet that it's just no feasible to approach, blah, not right now, I think I need to find something different, maybe something that trains you as you work or whatever.

I hate this

[Ed]

Sounds like you need to give it a week or two.  Decide in haste and repent at your leisure, and all that.  Whatever you decide to do, things will most likely turn out fine though, so don't worry too much

Don't worry too much about all those criteria in the job specs either - most of those are just an employer's wishlist.  Quite often you'll get an interview even if you don't think you'll stand a chance and, also quite often, you'll stand as much chance of getting the job as all the other applicants